Grandparenting Class

Changes in Infant Care

Most often, controversial issues between parents and grandparents stem from changes over the years in parenting practices. The changes are the result of a new wealth of information and knowledge rather than viewing the grandparents' ideas as "wrong." Research over the years has documented many of the current practices.

Feeding the Newborn – More women today are breastfeeding than 25 years ago. It is important to support the mother's choice whatever that may be and whatever way you can. To enhance and increase the success rate of breastfeeding, support and encouragement should come from those around the new mother.

Ideas about solid foods have changed over time. Solid foods are not given to the baby until they are at least four months old since their digestive system is still immature. Adding food too early can lead to allergies and colic.

Also, remember, parents can easily get discouraged by casual remarks such as "Are you sure he/she is getting enough" or "He/she looks overly hungry."

Use of a Pacifier – The use of a pacifier is a parental choice. It used to viewed as unclean and lazy, but it is no longer thought of this way. Babies have an instinct to want to suck thus, at times, pacifiers can be beneficial. Dentists often recommend a pacifier rather than the child's thumb. If the child prefers a pacifier, never tie the pacifier to the child (it can strangle them). Also, never use a homemade pacifier or a nipple from a bottle. It could break off and choke the baby. Don't put honey on a pacifier to sweeten it-this could cause botulism for children below 12 months of age.

Sleeping in the Newborn – Babies are now sleeping on their backs only. Research has proven that the stomach position and the propped side-lying position are associated with an increased risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). Also, one should not place any stuffed animals, large bulky comforters, bumper pads or toys in the crib. This could cause the baby to suffocate.

Cord Care – Cord care can be completed by using alcohol or plain water with a cotton ball or Q-tip two-three times a day until the cord falls off and there is no evidence of drainage. At that time, the baby can be emerged into water for a bath rather than a sponge bath. Bellybands and coin taping of the navel are no longer in use.

Circumcision – This is a decision the parents-to-be must make, often based on personal or religious preferences. It is important for grandparents to support the decision of the parents, whatever that may be.

Spoiling – REMEMBER: "You can't spoil a child with love." Give them all the love, attention and nurturance you can. Things that spoil the child refer to material items. Many experts advise to establish a trust fund or give monetary gifts instead of showering them with endless presents and treats.

Baby powder – In years past, it was normal and even recommended to use lotion and then to cover the baby with large amounts of baby powder from head to toe. It is now strongly recommended not to use baby powder. It has been documented that baby powder does not reduce diaper rash and can cause respiratory problems if the baby breathes in too much.

Diaper Rash – Using over the counter medications such as Desitin or Balmex is recommended as a treatment for diaper rash as well as giving the bottom some air time away from the diaper.

Washing your hands – Continue to provide the most important safety standard of washing your hands each time prior to holding the baby to help reduce infections and exposure to germs.

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